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My Boyfriend is asking for Sex

 

Good evening. I'm 16 and will be 17 next year January. I'm in 200 level, and I've been dating my boyfriend since we were in secondary school when I was 13 years. He's already 17, and we are in the same level in the University.

The problem now is that he has been asking me for sex which I am scared of going into because I don't want to get pregnant. I love him and I don't want to loose him. But right now I don't know what to do because said if I don't give him, he will get it elsewhere but we will still continue the relationship. 

Any advice will be appreciated. 


Hi there,

From what you have said, my questions are; is the feelings mutual? Like you are also interested in doing this, or you are scared of doing this just because you are scared of getting pregnant? or you want to do this because you don't want to loose him? 

These are questions should be ready to answer with all sense of clarity. Giving in to such demand from a partner due to ultimatum, I'm afraid is not healthy. 

This should be something you are more than ready for mentally, and be aware or enlightened of. For example, you are scared of being pregnant, that means you need to know more about prevention, and know your cycle. 

There are other things to be more afraid of than pregnancy such as sexually transmitted infections/disease. Now that he's giving you an ultimatum, how can you trust him with your health (unprotected sex).

I think using condoms should be a routine, and both of you should go to a hospital for necessary screening like HIV, hepatitis, and other test. 

Know your cycle length, and know when you are fertile; avoid sex or use condoms during this period. 

Above all, if you are not yet ready for it, don't be pushed to a corner, do it on your on terms. 

Goodluck.

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