What do you know about Sex and BDSM?

What do you know about Sex and BDSM? Meet Sanasi, a sexualty proffesional 

Sex education and sexual expression are still perceived as awkward within society. From time immemorial, culture and religion have made sex sound secretive. Talking about it in the public makes you look irresponsible or wayward.

The need and desire of an individual sexually are not yet understood by most people, and when one decides to be outspoken about their preference, it comes with so much backlash or hate. For a moment, what do you know about masochist, what does BDSM means to you?

A masochist is someone that derives sexual pleasure when subjected to pain or sees someone in physical pain and humiliation.  A masochist barely derives pleasure in sex until a form of pain is experienced. The act is referred to as BDSM-bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, and masochism. Society believes that a normal person shouldn’t derive pleasure in pain before having sex. This mindset has made a lot of people (masochists) keep quiet about their feelings or secretly explores their desire. To make things clear and educate our community about sex and sexual desires, one of our teams had a quick interview section with Sanasi one of the leading Nigerian Sexologist and BDSM experts. Here is what she has to say about sex education and BDSM sex.

Could you please tell our readers a brief background about yourself and how you started your professional line?

I am Sanasi a multi-certified and award-winning sexuality professional, Africa is a highly sexualized society, and the knowledge we have about sex isn't appropriate so I decided to do something about it. Get a certification and teach others.

What are your experiences with your client as a BDSM educator?

 Experiences differ, but I let them understand I am authorized and certified to teach you about sex and offer solutions to your sexual concerns. But a summary is we have a debriefing session, problem documentation, solution and coaching are then done.

What can you tell us about BDSM?

BDSM IS an umbrella name for kink acts. It's a type of sex that isn't traditional (also called vanilla).

Can you educate our audience more on how society can accept masochists?

The desire to accept someone else point of you lies on you as an individual to first educate yourself. Learn what you need to know and when you genuinely understand how things work, acceptance comes naturally.

As a sex educator, what do you think about teenage sex education in Africa?

We honestly have a long way to go. It wasn't always this way, misinformation circulated and we found ourselves here. Maybe if we research our culture we would see that sex education has always been part of the African tradition.

As a sex researcher, what are your discoveries for the past years?

 A lot but most importantly we need to learn our history.

What is your basic system when helping people understand their sexual desires?

I use a psychosexual and culturally effective method to teach about sex and prefer solutions.

When you said psychosexual and culturally effective methods, can you break it down for our readers for better understanding?

That isn't a problem. The psychosexual method is using cognitive and behavioral approaches to sex. For you to relate with your audience you have to give them something they relate to, speak about it in their language so I make sure it's culturally effective.

What are the challenges in your line of work?

Stereotypes and labels are what I have to deal with but I have learned to deal with them just fine.

What is your take on sex education in religious centers looking at the peculiarity of Africa?

The religious centers influence sex so much, in Thailand, the Catholic Church helped distribute birth control. Like I said earlier, misinformation is what causes unnecessary difficulty.

When is the right time to teach children about sex education, and did you have any sex education growing up?

As soon as they start talking.

What is the best advice you can give on sexual desires?

I must say unlearn and relearn about sex. It’s ever-changing and dynamic.

Conclusively, there have been controversies on child sex education, mostly about what to teach and word usage. For example, using “bum bum” instead of the vagina and “pee-pee” instead of the penis. Parents have been advised to use the right words when teaching their kids. Private parts should not be replaced with other words.